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Rachel: Adding up the fees I have spent on sensitivity readers, I think I have paid around $1400 USD through roughly a two year span. (4 readers for one project, one of whom had to cancel partway and took only the first half of the fee, and one reader so far for another. The primary project was longer than 100k so the rate was a bit higher than standard in most cases.) Yes, that is a big bite of money. No, I have no answers.

You may get lower rates from friends and herniated lumbar disc sleeping position acquaintances — you may even get one for free or for the cost of a dinner out or a return favour later (Although, with a sensitivity reading rather than a friendly critique, there’s an extra layer of labour and stress in having to tell you if and how you’ve committed a fail — plus of course needing to have a friend/acquaintance who has both some editorial skill and is aware of the common issues with the representation of their specific marginalizations and intersections — and that makes it better to pay at least something, even if you get a discount).

If people know you are broke, you may be able to agree to payment plans. (Most of mine were payment of roughly half to start and half on delivery because I asked when I was solvent enough I could pay the full fee in short order, but I know that’s not the only option).

There may be something to having the editor and publisher behind the work — although I recently recommended one of the sensitivity escoliosis dorsolumbar readers I used to an editor doing work on a writer’s book, so some of them recognize that this is a thing that can be done at later levels, too.

You also likely don’t have to use more than one or two unless your book hits a lot of intersections at once — as long as you are aware that one or two are not going to necessarily agree or catch everything. They’ll likely note any issue so big it would require a total rewrite of the plot to make a workable book… and if you’re concerned about smaller issues later, you can always use a part of an advance to get one or two more pairs of eyes on it after you had an acceptance, because the editor will pretty much invariably have revisions anyhow. (I have had turnarounds shorter than a month, so this wouldn escoliosis cervical sintomas’t necessarily extend the rewrites significantly). It’s risky in case someone does say there’s something so big you can’t see how to fix it, but it is a way to make sure you have the money.

“Just any old book” shouldn’t have a $1400 cost. (For one thing, dock $350 off that cost for one book, as my number above is for sensitivity readings for 2 books, albeit one of which has only had one to date.) It really depends on what you include and how much in touch with that community you are escoliosis consecuencias already. I had a Japanese-Canadian protagonist and an African American “supporting actor” in one book and Anishinaabe characters in another, and I definitely needed a check on those.

However, I also had LGBT+ stuff in both — but both I and at least two of my beta readers/general critiquers, were *also* some shade of queer — that two of my sensitivity readers also were is a plus, but if I had only been able to find straight/cis sensitivity readers for racial issues, I would have felt comfortable going forth as-is, so this didn’t incur extra costs.

It’s also a cost that marginalized communities are least likely to incur, though, and in some cases might benefit from – they often *have* the experience that others are looking to have their work checked over for, and can make money thereby. It’s a cost that most estenosis espinal lumbar often falls hardest on rich and middle class cishet white able people.

It is also possible to be a cis straight able white person and stone broke, or even just not able to randomly float extra cash – and it is even more possible to be from one marginalization and need advice on writing another. Personally, I do not at all blame a person who has no money, or has money but not $250-$350 extra easily on hand at a given time, for trying to find an alternate way. It’s definitely not a personal failing to find it daunting or offputting.

Literally two years before the majority of that expense, I wouldn’t have been able to do that comfortably. My husband’s job had dissolved from under him, I was still a stay at home mom. We were never in dire straits, but we weren’t throwing $250 around casually either.

However, a lot of people – I’d guess probably most people – do allow themselves to notice other attractive people, even while remaining faithful to a monogamous commitment. I often hear partnered people talking about lumbar herniated disc symptoms attractive celebrities, for example. I know lots of people who have crushes on celebrities. This doesn’t mean they are cheating on their partners. In my friend circle, I can’t think of anybody who would be upset or hurt to hear their partner say that a famous actor is good looking.

If your character is bi and also in a relationship, you don’t ever have to write your character being attracted to anybody else. (However, if you do, you may want to include more than one gender.) What’s more likely to be relevant in a bi character is the way they relate to the world. For example, if your setting is the real world, where homophobia and biphobia exist, a bi character in a heterosexual relationship may still feel hurt on a personal level when witnessing homophobia. A bi character in a same gender relationship may be completely faithful in that relationship, but can still feel upset when gay friends make jokes implying “you’re gay now.” Being forced to adopt the label of gay ignores a bi person’s whole history, which may include previous romances with other genders.

Just one comment on you mentioning that as a straight person you also feel hurt when you escoliosis dorsal derecha see homophobia. I have no doubt that you do, and that shows empathy on your part, which I appreciate. However, I do want to point out one difference. A bi person, witnessing homophobia may also feel visceral fear, alienation, and the type of anger that comes from being *personally* attacked. There can be more of that immediate sense of danger. Or the may be a feeling of being isolated from your peers, especially if your peers think you’re straight and casually say homophobic things in front of you.

And, similarly, if bi man is perceived as gay by his gay male friends, if he has friends who make comments about how gross it is to kiss a woman, that bi man may feel alienated from that friend group, because it can feel like a personal attack on who he is. He may never kiss a woman again, but it’s still a part of him that’s being insulted.

If you’re writing a fantasy or science fiction world where there is no discrimination, the experience of people of different sexual orientations is going to be very similar. They’re all going to have very similar ways of relating to the world. And that can be very refreshing to both write and read.

And, of course, even in the real world, there are bi people who are accepted by their communities. I brought up some of the potential escoliosis lumbar en adultos challenges, simply to explain why a bi identity may be relevant to some characters, and why they may not want to be seen by others as straight or gay. Of course there are millions of bi people in the world and there are many different types of experiences that people have.

As one example of actual fear: A straight person in a straight monogamous relationship need have no fear that their other seemingly straight monogamous friends will react badly if they jokingly mention their crush on the latest celebrity — a woman admiring Chadwick Boseman, for instance. A bisexual woman (like me) has to “read the room” to make the *exact same kind of joke* about Lupita Nyong’o. Even if “out” to close friends. Is there someone new? Are they someone where this is likely to be friction? What about at the workplace lumbar hernia symptoms? Will I be at risk of harassment or losing my job if I mention it? Do I have to out myself to complain about the homophobic jokes others make to HR? Do I want to? It colours a lot of things you do besides just marry and have sex. And while risk assessment like this is some of it, it’s not even all about risk vs. reward. What que es escoliosis dorsolumbar about enjoying a chick flick? Do my friends assume I am enjoying a story of women as friends because I am “shipping” someone? And is it a bad thing if I am?

You think that if you were writing a bi character who was a tragic cliché (IE, they seem to have plot armour while they’re dating the same sex, but once they fall in love with another person of their gender, they die tragically within a few episodes, or turn evil because their partner dies tragically) you WOULDN’T want someone to say to you, “You know, this is a common cliché that many LGBT people find very annoying. You can avoid it by tweaking the plot or characters in X, Y, or Z way, or even some other solution of your devising. Just don’t make it look like deciding to take a partner of the same sex is something that must always end badly.”?

I sure would. It’s not a matter of limiting your words any more than saying “Look, this plot could be resolved if these two characters sat down and talked for 5 minutes” or “This isn’t how the physics work” is limiting your words. Having another tragic LGBT scene and having a plot dependant on two people not talking or bad science — these are all things that get your book thrown across the room and get you bad reviews.

The Good Place has since embraced Eleanor’s bisexuality and she’s even said in a recent episode, “More guys should be bi, it’s 2018, it’s like ‘get over yourselves’.” Which, it’s weird to tell people to change their sexual orientation dolor de lumbares, but at the same time it’s saying telling people it’s okay to embrace the bisexual label openly.

Another exploration of bisexuality occurs in An Absolutely Remarkable Thing by Hank Green, where the main character is pressured by her publicist to present as gay to the world since it’s ‘easier’. She escoliosis dorsal dextroconvexa goes along with it for a while, but eventually gets fed up with it and tells the world otherwise.

And a third example is Thomas Sanders’ cartoon therapy videos where one character has homophobic grandfather, but considers the fact that he’s bi means he gets the last laugh. Yelling at the sky “I’m bisexual!” was a little over the top, but it certainly got the point across.

And a fourth one: Rose Quartz in Steven Universe is shown to have had many relationships over her long life, most notably with the female Pearl and the male Greg. This case is a bit murky, though, since Pearl likely read a lot more into her relationship with Rose than Rose did and Rose seems to have preferred men.